Grooming is one of the first things to go and one of the fastest things to fix. Why it matters more than it sounds like it should. When someone stops getting their hair done, it…

The feeling family caregivers never admit to, why it shows up, and what it is actually telling you. Some night this winter you’re going to be driving home from her house and a thought is…

Three questions to settle while everyone is still calm, including the four days on either side of the holiday that families forget about every year. Every year families wait until the second week of November…

Early darkness makes late afternoons harder for a lot of older adults. Four changes worth making before November 1, starting with the lamps. On November 1 it starts getting dark at half past four, and…

Six questions worth asking on the next car ride, why reminiscing lifts mood when little else does, and the ten minutes of recording you will keep forever. You know her as your mother. You know…

The particular loneliness of being the family caregiver, when everyone in your life is concerned about the same person and it isn’t you. Everybody asks how your mother is doing. Nobody asks how you are,…

The hour of prep that makes Medicare open enrollment simple, and the list you will be grateful for if she ever ends up in an emergency room. You can’t pick the right Medicare plan for…

An hour in her kitchen where she is the one who knows. Why old skills and old stories outlast newer memory, and why it matters that she gets to be the expert. Not for her….

What caregiver burnout actually looks like from the inside, and why respite care is maintenance on the only caregiver your mother has. You snapped at her on Thursday and you’ve been carrying it around ever…